Love is Freedom...Isn't It?
Man's greatest desire is for freedom. Freedom within thyself is a longing within humans. Freedom is the very essential core, the soul, the driving force behind human consciousness: Love is its circumference and freedom is its center. These two fulfilled, life has no regret. And they both are fulfilled together, never separately. The very essence of love is being free, is being set free, the very point is the feeling of being able to spread your wings and fly freely, to be liberated, to be able to feel existence in purity.
Trying to fulfill love without freedom is an exercise in futile. Such love is not beautiful, its actually not ugly as well, its horrible, its unbearable, and where such love exists it brings more and more misery, more and more bondage, it becomes a liability, love turns into something ugly, something you want to get rid off, something you want to shed or get rid off, you want excrete it, you desire to cry it out because if there is no freedom to go with it, it ends up being a mere commodity or an obligation. Then love is not what one has expected it to be; it turns out just the opposite. It shatters all hopes, destroys all dreams, it gives you the unexpected, it destroys all expectations, and life becomes a wasteland, a groping in darkness and never finding the door to an endless world of arguments, fights, sadness and unspoken misery.
Love without freedom naturally tends to be possessive. And the moment possessiveness enters in, you start creating bondage for others and bondage for yourself, because you cannot possess somebody without being possessed by him. You cannot make somebody a slave without becoming a slave yourself. Whatsoever you do to others is done to you, and that is when the freedom you feel irrespective of being with someone starts to suffocate you, the feeling of beauty turns to frustration leading to slavery of thyself.
This is the basic principal to be understood, that love without freedom never brings fulfillment. And to be able to love and be loved the feeling to be fulfilled is essential, its important to feel content and satisfied yet free & in harmony and rhythm with thyself and the partner.
And there have been people who have tried the other extreme, freedom without love. These are the monks, the escapists, the people who renounce the world. Afraid of love, afraid of love because it brings bondage, they renounce all the situations where love can flow, grow, can happen, is possible. They escape into loneliness. Their loneliness never becomes aloofness, it remains loneliness. And loneliness is a negative state; it is utterly empty, it is sad. Solitude within an human being is an essential character and an element of self discovery but loneliness ends up bringing misery. Solitude and silence within oneself is way of being in peace, loneliness the complete opposite. Solitude has its own spirituality, it has its own beauty, loneliness simply haunts you.
So, simply Love and freedom are not separate things, you cannot choose. Either you will have to have both, or you will have to have dropped both. But you cannot choose, you cannot have one.
Love is the circumference, freedom is the center.
One has to grow in such delicate balance where love and freedom can bloom together. And they can, because its not rocket science, its merely letting go, its about being in love for being in it not for societal norms. Its like the good comes with the evil, the day and the night, the roses and the thorns, so simple as that freedom and love.
So what do you think - " Are freedom & Love inter-related or have I just lost my mind ?"
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