familyfriend101's blog

Humanity is to understand others and help in the right time. What I learned all the while is that the Humanity can only be "Hoped" and never can be "Demanded". I am married for past 7 years and settled in California, USA. I have a daughter and son and Iam a house wife by choice. I do not have any qualms about my husband but my mother-in-law makes my life pathetic.

Ours is a very traditional south Indian family. I am a doctor and the eldest son in my family. My second brother is in US and married. I got married 4 years back with a girl from middle class family. We are probably affluent in our community and it was also a traditional arranged marriage. We were very happy for the initial 2 years and we used to live along with my parents - this was by choice rather than my wife's compulsion.

 I live in USA with my beautiful 2 year old girl and my husband. I work as a consultant in IT industry and my husband works as a full time employee. Till now, me, my husband were in good terms and I had no issues to bother.

Recently we were in Livermore Temple ( A Temple in USA) after a 5 months duration. The serenity and sanctity of a temple attracts us more than anything else. We go to temple spend an hour or so in meditation or prayer and we feel relaxed and calm. Now, this has became a debatable topic and I ask my self, "Do temples these days give you that calmness and tranquility ?".

Yes… you heard it right. Being a good host is an Art. Some people are good at it and some really suck. Not that they don’t know how to be a good host, they just don’t have that "Art" in them and they don’t seem to understand it.

In daily life most of us unconsciously follow through the Trust, Faith, Belief and one's own Feelings (instincts) in whatever we do. It is often very sad that the same person fails to TRUST his own people at home/family. We unconsciously trust, believe and have faith in the ones at Work Place, Religion, Politics, Social Causes, etc... Sometimes we trust people that we don't know.We trust them simply based on the qualification or the experience attached to them. But still... we don't want to (or cant) trust our own family members.

I am in my late twenties and have been married for almost 5 yrs now. My married life has been great with no big issues till now, but on the other side my professional life is really down. I was working as a junior software engineer before marriage, but had to leave my job after marriage as we were moving to US.

Following question was asked by a dear friend...
"I am a stay at home mom and have two kids with a gap of 2 yrs. I had C-Sections both the times. I did not gain much weight after my first delivery and was pretty active, healthy and was in perfect shape too. But things changed completely when my baby was 9 months. We realized that I was pregnant again and was both happy and confused about it. After a lot of thinking and analyzing we decided to go ahead with the baby.